Really? Are you for reals? Is that what you think when you have to define in your own mind what I am to you or how I am a part of your family? But apparently I'm not even a part of your family because I'm just a neighbor!!
Well, "eff" you!!
Fine, if I'm just your neighbor there is no reason for me to love you, to care for you, to want to be there for you, to pray for you, to wish you well...it'll be like all the other people in the world: I'll care but not really care for you. I care for every creation that God gave life to, but the people that are close to my heart, of course, always get a special prayer. But whatever, I guess because we're only neighbors I really don't have to really, really pray for you!!
So that's all I am?
I have NEVER called you my neighbor or even thought of you as just my neighbor!! You have ALWAYS been more to me! But shoot, now I can just call you my neighbor, makes life more simpler for me, less family to keep track of. I mean, I always called you my auntie, my uncle, my cousin, and least of things my friend, but forget about that because now you're just my neighbor and nothing more.
But Seriously?!? You are going to call me your neighbor?
Dang, I know more about you than 3/4 of your blood relatives (your "real" family). I have been through more stuff with you than your own "real" brothers and sisters!!
I have known you my whole life and until I became educated about the technicalities of how we are "really" related, you have always been family, thicker than blood could ever be. I don't care that are bloods don't match, that they don't mix; the more reason we should get closer!!
But noooooo, I'm just the "neighbor"!! Yeah, whatever!! I mean, come on, you'll claim your real cousin that you don't know crap about and even when I'm standing right there and you know everything about me, but wait, I'm just the neighbor!!
Well, screw all of you guys!!
I have cared, loved, worried, cherished, and prayed too much for all of you to be called a "neighbor". Well, now I don't have to attend any of your family functions or other "family" stuff you like to do!!
You can't even call me a Family Friend, shoot, that sounds better than a neighbor.
How do you think that makes me feel when I know for a fact that I am more of a part of your family than any other "blood" relative and even more!!
Well, that's fine, call me your neighbor, but beware, next time I hear that, it's on...I won't take it anymore, I'll put you out on the spot and then walk away like a a good neighbor because neighbors don't stick around long enough to see someone get hurt or actually care. I'll tell you like it is and then act like a neighbor and leave!!
So yea, that's right, I'm saying you don't make me feel like I'm a part of your family...oh wait...oh you do, but in the privacy of the immediate family, but when others are around or in public, I'm just the neighbor!! I know I am one of the best damn people in this world (well at least that's what I hear, because seriously I think I'm not worthy of anything), but to hear from your own family or the people you love that you're nothing that I'm just a neighbor hurts more than anyone can imagine!!
It hurts!! But like I said, next time, you'll know!! And you'll regret it!! and then I won't be the neighbor no more!!
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Merissa,
I am so sorry that you are hurting, I hope the person that offended you really didn't mean to. And hopefully it wasn't someone in our clan..again so sorry your hurt. You know we love you lots and lots.
Remember our conversation the other night about certain people like to classify others into families ie: Who is blood related? How can she be your auntie when? You know the questions that people ask to legitimize our relationships. Uncle and I started out as neighbors to your Mom and Dad but you have never been our neighbor - you entered our family as our little girl the day you were born! And since that day you have always been our girl. And you know the rest, your mom is an amazing sister to me! Even though she calls me "mom" sometimes!!! You are loved, don't let other people tell you differently! I am sorry that you are angry and hurt but you know in the scheme of things, you have a huge family that has your back!!! so who needs this particular neighbor!!! Auntie and Uncle love you very much (your family too) You are the best Auntie/Manang/Cousin to the Reyes/Rivera/Gibbs/Beadle/Pugh/Chow familia - Let someone try and figure that one out!!! Hang in there!
I'm so sorry Merissa! It's taken me a while to drop the technical definitions of family, friends, etc. Growing up, everyone I knew made those distinctions. I still remember one time when I said something about not being in your family and Deanne sternly told me that she never wanted to hear me say that again! Anyway, I love being part of your big family and I, for one, definitely have your back.
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